One way that my spouse and I connect on a weekly basis is through our weekly meeting. The weekly meeting is our time to check-in with each other, plan for the week, and work through any problems. Having an agenda to guide us through these meetings is critical to making sure that nothing slips through the cracks. Do you have weekly marriage meetings?
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The first step in setting up a weekly meeting is to decide on a time that will work for the both of you. My husband and I try to have our weekly meeting at night after the kids have gone to bed. We lovingly call it our “Beer and Budget” meeting (although I’m usually enjoying a glass of red wine!).
There are some weeks when we can’t formally sit down and go through our agenda for some reason. And that’s okay.
The goal of the weekly meeting isn’t perfection; it’s connection.
What matters most is that you are intentionally making time to check-in with each other regularly. So if you miss a meeting, try to find another time during the week to talk about your agenda. My husband and I sometimes do this in the morning while we’re getting ready for the day.
The Weekly Marriage Meeting Agenda
A weekly marriage meeting agenda should include the following 5 essential items (and can include anything else that you want to talk about that week!).
Item #1: Budget Review
A necessary part of your weekly marriage review is a review of your family’s budget.
If you don’t have a budget in place, I’d recommend that you take a look at my earlier blog post called, How to Create Your Family’s Personal Financial Plan. Setting up a personal financial plan for your family will force you to identify your financial goals and create a budget with those goals in mind. (You can request a free family budget worksheet in that earlier post to help get you started.)
In our home, we’ve used You Need a Budget (YNAB) for years to help us track our budget. For our weekly meeting, we review our spending for the week against our budget in YNAB. This review takes just a few minutes, but staying on the same page with your financial goals is a smart way to maintain a healthy marriage.
Item #2: Weekly Calendar
The next item on our agenda is to review our weekly calendar. We both use Google Calendar for work and our family calendar. Since I’m self-employed, I share my work calendar with my husband, so he’ll always be able to find me.
We also have a family calendar to keep track of family-specific appointments. Even though we both have access to our calendar information, a review of the weekly events is needed to determine changes in our routine, to deal with drop-offs/pick-ups as needed, and to see if we need to reschedule anything.
I think Sunday night is the perfect time to have a weekly meeting so you can start the week feeling prepared and organized.
Item #3: Meal Planning
Meal planning is one of the best ways to ensure you’ll have a smooth week. When you know what you’re serving each night, you free up time to focus on other things (like homework and tidying up!).
I think that your weekly marriage review is a great time to discuss the week’s meals.
Plus, you can plan any grocery trips that may be needed during the week!
Item #4: Goals Review
Your weekly meeting is also the time to see how you’re doing with moving closer to your goals.
You’ll review your financial goals in item #1, but if you and your spouse have other joint goals, this is the time to see if you’re staying on track.
One of your common goals might be to have a regular, weekly (or monthly) date night. You can discuss restaurants you’d like to visit or movies you’d like to see, or plan a weekend away.
Some couples have shared fitness goals, like completing a marathon together or even a weekly walk or jog.
Your spouse is also the perfect person to be your accountability partner with your personal growth goals. Having someone to hold you accountable for the goals you’ve set for yourself makes it more likely that you’ll follow through on achieving them.
Item #5: A Quick Check-In
The last item to include in your weekly marriage meeting is to spend a few minutes checking in with each other.
Ask each other: How are you feeling? You might end up talking about your children, your marriage, parenting issues, emotional stresses, work issues, or other things that are weighing on your minds.
The weekly marriage review is the perfect time to say, “how can I support you this week?” Including this time in your weekly meetings to discuss issues of the heart will not only bring you closer to each other but will also prevent problems from building up over time.
I hope you find this list of 5 essential agenda items helpful in planning your weekly marriage reviews. Is there anything else you include in your weekly meetings with your spouse?
If so, I’d love to hear about them in the comments section below.
With Love and Joy,