After spending an entire day working and caring for others, I’d often just want to collapse into bed and fall asleep. But more often than not I found myself waking up in the middle of the night with that sinking feeling that I forgot to do something or just unable to sleep. After too many sleepless nights, I knew that something had to change. What I realized was that I was leaving too much undone at the end of the day. A big part of what I was leaving undone was scheduling in time to care for me.
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Creating an evening self-care routine that allowed me to reflect on what happened that day, plan for the day ahead, and relax and rejuvenate before going to bed, made a huge difference in my ability to wind down and sleep more peacefully.
Your Ideal Evening Self-Care Routine
If you’re having trouble sleeping or feeling frazzled at the end of the day, I’d suggest that you take a hard look at your evening routine. There may be some things you can change to help you unwind, destress, and sleep better.
Take out a sheet of paper and brain dump what your evenings currently look like, and then write out what you’d like for them to look like.
Ask yourself these questions to help you determine what your ideal evening self-care routine would look like:
- Are there things I’m not doing that I’d like to be doing to care for myself?
- Are there some bad habits that I need to replace with good habits?
- Am I getting enough sleep?
- What’s my ideal bedtime?
- What are some things I can do at night to relax and rejuvenate?
I started prioritizing daily self-care when I noticed that my emotional and physical health were both declining.
Now, I use a daily self-care planner to help me plan out my self-care activities for each day and night. The planner helps me to be intentional about taking care of myself during the week.
My evening self-care routine begins just after I tuck my kids into bed. I start with reflecting on the day’s events.
Reflect On Your Day
My daily reflection doesn’t take very long, but it makes a huge difference in clearing my mind.
I created this Daily Inspiration Planner to help me organize my day and night.
At night, I review my planner to see if I completed everything I set out to do during the day. If I didn’t, I move that item to another day so I don’t have to worry about getting it done in the middle of the night.
Then, I spend a minute listing out my thanksgivings for the day. An evening gratitude practice has been shown to help people sleep better.
Another way to gather your thoughts at the end of the night is to journal. Journaling is a wonderful way tool for reflection.
The last thing I do with the planner is to acknowledge my accomplishments for the day. I don’t know about you, but I can get stuck spending too much time thinking about the things I didn’t get done rather than focusing on the things I accomplished.
By reframing my mindset to think about these accomplishments, no matter the size, I am teaching myself to be intentional about staying positive. And there are some days when my only accomplishment was to feed my children. But even these small accomplishments are important!
Once I’m done with my daily reflection, this is my trigger to turn off all technology. My phone gets put on the charger and my laptop gets put on my desk.
By removing myself from technology, I’m acknowledging that it’s time to rest. My focus turns to mind, body, and soul activities that will help me to completely unwind and relax so that I can get a good night’s sleep.
Every night is different, but there are some things that I try to do every night and some things that I do on occasion.
For me, each night I take a hot shower, put on my fuzzy socks, and read a book. Sometimes I’ll put on a candle, take a bath, or do a facial mask.
Here’s a list of nighttime rejuvenating activities that help me to relax at night:
- Hot Shower/Bath
- Candles or Low Lighting
- Herbal Tea
- Essential Oils
- Put On Fuzzy Socks
- Pleasure Reading
- Facial Mask
- Affirmations (I love these printable affirmation cards from Tinselbox!)
- Centering Prayer or Meditation
- Massage With Significant Other
After spending a few minutes taking care of my mind, body, and soul, I’m ready to turn out the lights and go to sleep.
As a mom, I know that it can feel impossible at times to fit in anytime to care for you.
And the reality of parenthood is that there will be some days where it is impossible to take care of you. Kids get sick, life happens, but if you remain intentional and consistent about caring for yourself, you’ll be a happier and better you.
I took Crystal Paine’s 14-Day Make Over Your Evenings Online Course a while ago, and she helped me to learn how to be intentional about creating an evening routine. If you’re having a hard time creating or maintaining your nighttime routine, Crystal’s course may be the motivation you need.
Will you join me in making a commitment to creating an evening self-care routine?
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What are some of your evening self-care activities? I’d love to hear about them in the comments section below.
With Love and Joy,