Do you wake up feeling refreshed, relaxed, and ready to start the day? Or are your first thoughts when you wake up in the morning more in line with “Oh, I wish I could just go back to sleep”? If it’s the latter, your morning routine may be in need of a makeover.
When I started waking up every morning immediately dreading the day, I knew that something had to change. My mornings use to be a complete and utter disaster. You can read my earlier post about my morning transformation here.
I’m a busy mom, just like you. In this season of my life, I’m running a law practice, growing a blog, and raising my two young boys (along with my loving, patient husband!). I hold a leadership position in my church, and I’m active in my MOPS group.
Many moms often ask me how I’m able to “do it all.” Well, the short answer is that I don’t do it all, at least I don’t do it all alone. I have several systems in place, and I have a lot of help.
One of my favorite systems to help me “do it all” is my morning routine.
My favorite resource for guiding you in setting up a morning routine is the 14-Day Online Make Over Your Mornings course by Crystal Paine. This video course was just what I needed to jumpstart my morning routine. It was a real game changer for me.
Before having a morning routine, I felt rushed, stressed, and overwhelmed at the start of each day. When I’m consistent with my morning routine, I feel refreshed, relaxed, and ready to take on the day.
What I’ve learned since first getting intentional about my morning routine is that a morning routine is not static.
Like all systems, your morning routine must be reviewed and changed as your life changes. I revise mine at least a few times a year.
However, there are two things about morning routines that should stay the same: Morning routines must be refreshing and they must be realistic.
Today, I wanted to share some tips to help you set up a morning routine that is both refreshing and realistic.
How To Set Up A Morning Routine That Is REFRESHING and REALISTIC
Start The Day Refreshed.
The most refreshing morning routines are those that begin the day in life-giving activities that will refuel your mind, body, and soul.
I’m a big advocate of starting the day in self-care activities like prayer, scripture, meditation, exercise, and reading.
By filling yourself up first thing in the morning, you can pour out generously and lovingly to your loved ones throughout the day.
For busy moms, these rejuvenating activities may feel like luxuries when we have so many other things we need to get done in the morning. We have to pack lunches, do laundry, return emails, pick up the house, get the kids ready, get everyone out the door on time, and more.
But here’s the hard truth: These daily self-care activities are NOT luxuries. These daily self-care activities are necessities.
That last sentence is so important that it bears repeating. These daily self-care activities are necessities.
If you are not taking care of yourself, you are not giving your best self to your life and your loved ones.
Please start your day with self-care if you’re not already doing so.
Set Realistic Expectations.
Morning routines need to be realistic to work.
When I hear of moms telling me that their morning routine isn’t working, it’s often because they’ve set unrealistic expectations for what they can accomplish in the morning.
Use your mornings to mentally and physically prepare yourself for the day. But don’t overschedule your morning. You’ll be left feeling anxious, stressed, and overwhelmed, the exact opposite way your morning routine should leave you feeling.
I know there’s a lot you’d like to accomplish, but by keeping your morning simple and refreshing, you will be better able to handle your responsibilities during the day.
I complete my daily review every night before going to bed so I can wake up in the morning with a clear plan for the day. This frees my mind to focus on my morning routine.
Before having a daily review, I would wake up in the morning and try to mentally organize everything that had to happen during the day.
This mental exercise would leave me feeling overwhelmed and unable to do the things that left me feeling refreshed, like praying and exercising.
Another tip is to remember to schedule more time than you actually need to get stuff done. This continues to be a struggle for me. I tend to fill in every minute of my day with stuff that I’d like to accomplish.
To prevent me from overloading my schedule, I’ve been adding in “free time” on my calendar. This stops me from over-scheduling my time and allows for white space so I can have some quiet moments during the day.
Take A Course On Organizing Your Mornings.
If you’d like a system for creating a more organized morning routine, don’t forget to check out Crystal Paine’s Make Over Your Morning course. This course was instrumental in helping me turn my mornings from chaos to calm.
Crystal’s clear and concise 14-day course, consisting of videos, a workbook, and homework was well worth the $17 dollar investment.
In fact, I make it a point to go through the class at least two times a year, usually in the fall and at the start of the new year when I feel my morning routine is in need of a makeover.
The last piece of advice I have for you is to be flexible. Not every morning is going to leave you feeling refreshed. Life happens. Kids get sick or decide to wake up extra early one day or another life event has thrown a wrench in your rejuvenating morning plan. That’s okay.
Not every day will go as planned. But if you are intentional about having a morning routine that fills you up, you can easily return to it the next morning.
What does your morning routine look like? I’d love to hear about it in the comments section below.