How would you describe your days? If overwhelmed, overscheduled, or frazzled come to mind, it might be time for a change. Read on to learn how you can transform your life by learning how to change one thing at a time.
We women set high standards for ourselves. Our to-do lists can be overflowing. And, if we’re honest with ourselves, we’ll never be able to check everything off of our lists.
And, I believe that this oversized to-do list is the source of overwhelm and stress many of us experience on a regular basis.
Whether your to-do list exists on paper or in your head as you go through the day thinking of everything you still have to do, that pesky list feels like a dark cloud hanging over your head.
Can You Have It All?
After having my first child, I decided to open up my own law practice so I could have flexibility in my schedule. I wanted to have it all, like so many women.
I was intent on being present in my son’s life while running a successful law practice.
My impossibly high standards allowed me to convince myself that I had to show up 100% in my professional life and 100% in my home life.
And, guess what?
I did it.
At least, I thought I was doing it.
I mean, I had a successful practice, and I was present for my son.
But a few years into parenthood, I had my second son, and I couldn’t understand why I didn’t love my life.
My life looked like the life of my dreams, right?
Taking Care Of The Pilot
One morning I woke up feeling completely overwhelmed by my life. I was exhausted, my body ached, and I didn’t feel happy.
I took a look at my schedule and realized that I had zero time to myself. Every single minute was scheduled to take care of the needs of someone else.
At that moment, I made a mental commitment to do something to care for myself. Being the overachiever that I am, I made a list of all of the things I wanted to do to take care of me.
I’d work out five times a week, meal plan, schedule regular salon appointments, eat healthier, drink more water, and make time for a new hobby.
And each morning I’d wake up thinking about all of these new things that I was going to do. And then I’d end the day feeling defeated because I didn’t do any of them.
This mental drain went on for months.
I knew that I needed to do something to care for myself, but I just couldn’t find the motivation, energy, or time to do anything for myself.
Make A Commitment To Changing One Thing At A Time
I finally acknowledged that I couldn’t make all of these changes.
At least I couldn’t make them all at the same time.
I had to focus on accomplishing one thing at a time.
(By the way, a great book about the importance of focusing on one thing at a time is called The One Thing by Gary Keller. If this topic interests you, I highly recommend this book!)
My mornings were a mess at that time in my life. Each morning I felt frazzled, unfocused, and overwhelmed.
So that’s where I decided to start.
I committed to waking up a little earlier. I’d work on a Bible Study, pray, and review my calendar. This new morning routine took only 15-20 minutes a day.
But that one habit of getting up a little earlier and spending time devoted to doing something just for me was the catalyst to help me change my life for the better.
Once I had my morning routine down, I began to add to my self-care routine. Then I started to get more organized. And then I made time to work on my passion project (this blog!).
By adding in one new thing to focus on at a time, my life began to transform into one that today I can honestly say that I love.
I feel better mentally, physically, and emotionally. And that makes me a better me to give to those that I love.
You Can Transform Your Life One Thing At A Time
Thankfully, I no longer start my days feeling frazzled, overwhelmed and overscheduled.
Each morning I wake up motivated and excited to start the day. I have a prioritized and doable to-do list. And I make time to care for myself.
But this didn’t happen overnight. It took me years to get to this point.
And my life is by no means perfect. But I’ve learned to create a joyful life by focusing on making one big change at a time.
My challenge for you is to begin transforming your life one thing at a time.
What is one thing that you can commit to changing right now? I’d love to hear about it in the comments section below.
With Gratitude and Joy,